Happiness. It’s a tricky thing…and what I’ve learned is that it’s actually ourselves that can stand in the way of it. It’s so easy to blame others or situations on the fact that we are not happy. But I don’t believe that to be true. I have been there…where I find myself wallowing in the unhappiness, blaming everything and everyone for it. And guess what…blaming didn’t make me any happier. What did, though, was looking in the mirror and realizing that I’m unhappy because I’ve let myself feel that way. Once we own it and find out that WE are in charge of our OWN happiness…we easily find moments that truly make us happy.
I often get asked how I can be so happy and light hearted when I have gone through a lot of negative in my life. For awhile I really didn’t know how to respond. But I’ve given myself time to sit in that thought and really reflect on why and I found it’s because I made a choice. I have a great friend who says it best: We Can Either Be a Victim or We Can Do Something About It. I chose to do something about it. I chose to be a survivor. I chose to find the happy moments. I chose to take my experiences and say ‘Yes that happened to me, but now I’m going to take them and work to ensure they don’t happen to others.’ I chose to learn from my mistakes and share them so that not only I don’t do them again but others learn along the way too!
This past Fall was a pretty heavy time for me and a crazy emotional roller coaster that I was all too ready to get off of. I decided, though, that I needed to actively seek out happy moments so that I didn’t get swallowed up in the pity party. One that I’ve shared about quite a bit is finding a moment in the morning to dance. I don’t do this every morning now, but in that season I was waking up, turning on a tune and dancing it out in my bedroom. I needed to do this for me so that I could kick start my day on a happy note. Because my day was quite possibly going to be filled with emotions, tough decisions, and some pain. But it could also be filled with happiness if I let it.
Don’t get me wrong…you do not need to be all happy, bubbly and full of life 24/7…it’s valuable to have those other emotions in our lives because they help shape us and teach us about ourselves. And seriously…we need to have times where we are sitting on the couch eating ice cream while watching some sappy love story hoping it makes us feel better…you haven’t lived if you haven’t!
So if happiness to you is eating dessert for dinner, dancing solo in your bedroom, watching TV in your underwear, going dancing with your girlfriends **almost** every Friday night….then do it. For me, it’s those happy moments that have made the biggest impact on my life, have pulled me out of the darkness, and are the ones I never forget!